From my view you should listen to every cue
An incident happened that was no fault of the two souls involved
My girl nearly 2 and a lovely little boy just over 2
The dad was in the sea but the boy didn\'t want to go in
So walking along the edge he met up with our Maarii
As it looked so sweet and I was just about to take a picture, she fell over!
The boy quickly tried to help by putting his hands around her neck and lifting!
Obviously she screamed but the boy looked shocked and went on until the Adults moved in!
They then happily (after some understanding, it\'s ok) throw stones in the sea together!
All was good and I went for a dip but sadly my brain never turns off, although it\'s one reason I can like my job!
I noticed the dad and son in the water, he had taken him way passed me and the boy was not happy. Although the dad tried to give reassurance, it was not enough. He ask him to swim and the boy just clung to him and wouldn\'t for a second try!
To me the boy was right, for a number of reason the dad could of dropped him and the fear the boy felt was keep him alive! Due to the fact he has no knowledge of how to swim.
I could go on and on with this but as I put my girl to bed this evening I realised, the boy did stop when Maarii screamed because people around him don\'t!
This doesn\'t mean the dad was a bad one because fear is never a good place to stay and every one should always start learning the tools to turn it around.
Here is my main point, the way I was taught was wrong and no one needs to \"man up\" or alike, because all emotions are for a reason and there will never be harmony until we really learn how to listen.
We each suffer with a bit of the human condition, to change the cycle and grow is everyones mission.
May I truly absorb every word that I\'ve written.