It finally came down to , sadly with regret, to me saying this!I am not goung to b part of ur other habits. The equanimity to be sought is damaged by asking why it is not already valued. Or by why a level underneath is being proferred with a denial as obvious as whistling past the graveyard. There exists , in u, a new arrogance, self entitlement or a general i dont give a fuck attitude. I will not be shifted to thefckn b list as ur actions surely indicate Figure it out and fix it or tell me to fuck off!