Thinking about the fact that I might die before my siblings, and that is just going to cause pain and suffering for them. Sometimes you would rather suffer for them, you would want to take their pain away. You could tell them “when I’m gone don’t cry over me, live your life. When I am gone, we will see each other again, I will be in your heart, I will be looking down on you.” But they will still mourn, they will still cry.