Anthony Hanible

Marriage Is A Cake You Bake Together

Marriage begins the way a cake does

With two sets of hands

Reaching for the same bowl

Bringing what they have

Hoping it’s enough

You measure out patience

You pour in honesty

You crack open old fears

And whisk them smooth

So they don’t ruin the batter later

Some days you forget an ingredient

Some days you spill too much of one

But marriage is forgiving

You can always stir again

Start again

Sweeten again

Heat comes next

The kind that tests you

The kind that rises slowly

The kind that asks

Whether you’ll stay close

Or pull away

But if you hold steady

If you trust the process

Something begins to lift

And when it finally sets

When the two of you open the oven

And see what you’ve made

Not perfect

But yours

You understand the truth

Marriage isn’t the cake

It’s the choosing

The mixing

The tending

The rising

The everyday act

Of making sweetness

On purpose