deflection or blame-shifting. By getting upset at your initial reaction and calling you \"selfish\" when you disengage, the other person shifts the focus away from their own behavior and makes you responsible for their emotional state.
Assuming you will intuitively know exactly what they need or want, and punishing you when you don\'t match that script, is fundamentally unfair.
Instead of discussing the actual topic, they focus on how you reacted to distract from the real issue.
avoiding the urge to
Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain. This usually feeds the cycle. Keep your responses short and objective.