The Enabler
You think you’re helping but you’re really not
You’re giving them the means to a disease you seem to have forgot
We do what we think is helping because we don’t want to see them suffer
But at the same time, we are causing them great discomfort
It’s not okay to enable, it's not okay to give in, these are the moments we need to relive
We need to stand up and take a bow, we need to give them guidance, we need to forgive
The outbreak of overdoses, the outbreak of suicides are becoming too much
Because we enable the people who seek something darker than an angel's touch
Just think about it when you give an addict some money
You don’t know what its really for, sex, drugs, or someone calling them honey
You don’t know what the next day is going to bring, if it even comes for them
We enable so we don’t lose hope of what we really seek
The day these people give up what's keeping them up creek
We enable because we can’t see them go through the withdrawals
By the time we realize we’re enabling, they will already be having their last call
We can give them another tomorrow, we can give them another chance
We need to put our foot down and give them a meaningful glance
This too shall pass, if we stop being the fuel to their fire
We have to guide them in the right direction, we need to give them a new desire
We enable because we can’t handle the truth
That someone we know, someone we love, is an addict
We need to enable a good sense of faith
Because if we keep enabling the bad paths, it’ll be too late
Stephanie Davis
June 2021
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- Comment from author about the poem: This is how I honestly feel.
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Good solid write there, Stephanie, good solid sound advice.
I hope you don't mind the old light bulb joke (you've probably heard it):
How many psychiatrists/psychologists/social workers etc does it take to change a light bulb? Answer: One - but the light bulb has got to want to change.
I fully agree. This is facts beyond belief.
Enabling and codependcy go hand in hand. A good poem Steph
Thank you so much.
Your courage is palpable. I suspect many of us don't even know we are enabling. How did you find that new desire?
As a recovering addict I just thought about what people were doing to try and help me and it made me realize that they weren't helping at all. So I decided to write about it in hopes that someone will realize that by giving someone money or other means to get their next fix or high isn't helping at all. If less people enabled there wouldn't be so many addicts. That's just how I feel about it.
I also found that by not giving into the voices in my head I was given another chance. So now I spend my days crocheting, writing, singing, drawing. I put my urges and cravings towards something that can properly benefit me or someone else.
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