Pornography

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  L. B. Mek May 19th, 2022 04:06

  (firstly, please forgive me
  for the opinionated and self-indulgent
  tirade of words below..
  Please feel free to ignore them
  I'm sure, you've consulted
  all the professional help, you need..
  Secondly, I thank you!
  for this brave and depthful
  sharing
  of a modern problem, few
  are willing to accept
  as being a genuine pandemic, issue
  in modernity)..
  I believe some of us, are more susceptible to addiction
  in any of its forms and for any of its vices
  one addiction, isn't necessarily
  an easier fix than the other
  and Porn, like all outlets
  is a murky, merging
  of the despicable and the pleasurable
  that's why, in all things
  'Temperance' is key..
  the Kama sutra, could be categorised as porn
  but it's also a cultural treasure
  and if approached
  with an open mind, it can
  embolden and enrich the sensual
  desires of a couple..
  we should begin
  with 'sex, is not a sin'
  its a physical expression/gratification
  of emotionally anchored needs and wants
  so, this porn addiction
  is often, a symptom
  of an emotional, disconnect
  someone is denying the existence of
  and until, that is fixed
  the addiction will remain, a harmful element in that individuals life..
  I recommend, trying to engage the person
  in long, often exhaustive conversations
  where the importance, is their willingness
  and comfort level, in sharing aspects of themselves
  they find, awkward or hard
  to introduce themselves
  so a little guidance may be necessary..
  often there's a thread that leads to a traumatic or at least
  a major experience
  where the individual feels, inept
  or helpless to thwart, an aspect
  in their make-up, whether
  physical or mental
  and so
  they've convinced themselves
  of a need
  to lose themselves
  to infatuations, as a coping methodologies
  the minute
  those nucleus sources
  of self-control, destabilising
  factors, can be identified
  the sooner, a solution can be arrived upon
  'in my humble opinion'
  the problem is much more
  than the images on screens..
  (stay strong!
  I hope you and your partner
  can get through this
  and become a stronger couple
  for having done-so, or
  if not
  I hope you yourself
  find the better, you deserve!)