Being Myself

As a woman with romantic ideals who approaches life with great care and forges her path without fear, my current and clear ideas and thoughts—along with styling my hair and face and wearing seasonal, sporty clothing—are not merely about adhering to the traditions of the past and present; instead, they embody crucial aspects of my identity that undoubtedly simplify the management and organisation of my work, guiding me towards the goal of "being myself" in my daily tasks.

In my view, as not all women are the same and each engages with society and the familial system through her unique vision and approach, the thoughts and feelings inherent in every woman empower her to influence her life and shape it according to her wishes, desires, and aspirations. Despite social and economic limitations, she can cultivate a new persona (herself) within and empower herself to pursue her chosen path through dedication and perseverance.

The most significant lesson I have learned from others, through mental and intellectual growth and the books I have read, is to be "myself." Even in Kabul, I never imitated others. I did not dress according to the day's fashion, wore my hair (in a ponytail) daily, and approached my work with an inner calmness, reflecting on my lessons and responsibilities.

In every environment and culture, particularly in today's liberal and democratic society, the lowest and highest levels of life coexist. Through my efforts to "be myself," I have managed to maintain balance despite others' curious natures. I refuse to accept pessimism and spiritual, mental, and material oppression as the norm. Instead, I strive to connect peacefully with my inner self and children.

Being yourself requires courage—the courage to be who you indeed are. Embracing life's weaknesses, shortcomings, and ups and downs reveals you as you are, showcasing your authentic self and illuminating your essence without hypocrisy or façade.

If self-being is pursued without regard for society's beliefs and standards, and if a person continues to confront life and its challenges with courage and logic—and does not lose their sense of self amid life's ups and downs, instead becoming a positive, pragmatic, and self-confident individual—then they are undoubtedly ahead of their time.

Shahla Latifi
February 2025