You Can’t Metamorphose a Narcissist

To be in their own little world people of the narcissus trait

Wallow in self pity and try to attract attention, straight

From the lower depths where feelings cannot exist.

The emptiness of such a person is filled with fantasies

They go looking for their prey for their odd practices.

They look for the vulnerable and people of low self-esteem

Overwhelm them, make promises and become Mr Charming

they ensnare the innocent to become their latest victim.

With smile on face and words of trickery they are rewarded

With the money, sex and adulation they obsessively covet.

They say over and over to their victim “I love you” even though

The only person they are capable of loving is themselves.

They can not love- they do not love - they have no capacity

For loving another human being – even their parents they despise

They become angry and childlike when a parent meets their demise.

They can not grieve – for they do not know how to so they copy

What other people do to give the appearance that they are upset.

They do this to attract attention to themselves and away

from the deceased showing again their complete lack of feelings,

the trait of narcissus is a danger to the unwary who have feelings.

Out of earshot and away from the presence of their victims

The possessor of the narcissus trait laughs about his girlfriends

Behind their backs – he delights in denigrating them to pieces,

He says they are pathetic, not of any real worth, in the end

He jokes with his friends about how he treats women he beds,

Lying is like breathing to such people – he feels it is essential.

When he tires of his victim he goes cold becomes more hurtful.

Nothing in his locker would make him the most popular person

So he invents a persona of charm and persuasive arguments,

To capture another unwary innocent and then controls them.

Such a person is to be avoided at all costs and for sanity;

Once they have their hooks in you it will be for eternity.

They have no wish to let go of anyone they try to possess,

No matter how many times a victim tells them to go away

They will not – for they think the victim wants it this way.

Time and time again such a person of narcissist character

will maintain contact no matter the victim says they never

want to see them again or want to go back to them again.

Any contact for the narcissist is gratification in and of itself,

Because they feel self-important contact is all they want.

Pity then the victim convinced such a person can change,

They can’t like the leopard’s spots, they won’t it is strange,  

But they don’t want to change, they are not doing wrong

In their own eyes – there is nothing wrong, they are convinced

Their bad behaviour is what their victim really wants of them.

Be wary of the holder of the narcissus, they lie about everything

They will say anything to keep their victim hooked like an addict

They will go along with the idea of getting treatment to keep hold

Of their victim, they can convince anyone they mean to change

But deep inside there is no real desire it is unnecessary to them.

Picture the victim who through being too kind waits for change,

In reality, they have a very long wait because it will not happen,

A victim is wasting their time, their life; their chance of happiness.

Remember, no one can fix a person who does not feel they need fixing,

You can’t metamorphose a narcissist, it is a hard and real fact of life.

Like the Dali painting of the metamorphosis of narcissus

The portrayal of the egg held in hand and the head bowed down

represents the closeness desired by the abused and the abuser,

but the desire is toxic in the abuser and the abused finds out

in the grossest way that can be possible between two people.

The hurt and pain mixed with a deep love of the narcissist

Will remain with the victim all the time there is contact,

The narcissist knows that and will exploit it to the full

They know their victim can not help it so they will fool

Their prey into thinking one day they will be different.

There is nothing to be gained whilst in a trauma bond

Only a mixed-up mind, hurt in the heart and heaviness

That the victim carries around in the forlorn hope of love,

There is no love in the narcissist only deep self-love

Impenetrable, unreasonable and full of obsessiveness.