Sometimes it happens in the smallest moment—
the pause after I mention my daughter.
A polite smile tilts sideways,
a quick recalculation behind the eyes.
Someone nods slowly,
as if a new piece of the puzzle
doesn't quite fit the picture
they already framed.
“Oh,” they say.
And suddenly the air fills
with quiet arithmetic.
Daughter
plus wedding ring
minus husband
equals confusion.
They do not ask directly.
Instead they circle it
with gentle curiosity.
“So… how does that work?”
Later, if they meet my wife,
the math begins again.
They look from her to me
and back again
as if they’re searching
for the missing clue.
Sometimes it comes out kindly:
“But you two look so… normal.”
As though ordinary faces
might disqualify us
from loving each other.
Other times it’s said jokingly—
the kind of joke
people think is harmless.
“You’re not what I pictured.”
As if somewhere
there is a catalog
of approved versions of us.
Not fat enough.
Not butch enough.
Not angry enough.
Not tragic enough.
Just two women
with a child
and a life
that looks suspiciously normal.
They do not see the years
of learning how to name ourselves,
the quiet courage
of building a family
in a world that still hesitates
when we say the word wife.
They only see
the absence of the stereotype.
And maybe that is the strangest thing—
that outside the fantasies
written by other people,
our lives look so ordinary.
Dinner dishes in the sink.
A child calling from the next room.
My wife’s hand brushing mine
without thinking.
No spectacle.
Just a life
that refuses
to look the way
they were told it should.
© Susie Stiles-Wolf
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Author:
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It still bothers me why people think they have any business or right to question, meddle, or even know about a person's sexual life, who they choose as friends, lovers or bank account. Why is that their business and how does that affect them. A lovely write
So did ya fuck a bloke (guy) or did ya make love to a turkey baster?😆😅😂.....LOL
Neither. There was a doctor, some paperwork, and way less poultry than you’re imagining. 😆
Very organised. But you have conducted a preemptive strike on a write I was planning which would have, used you (without naming) on which to hang a story of a couple of friends of mine, way back in the sixties who were successful in utilising the turkey baster method...🤔😆
Modern science has come a long way since then. By todays standards, yes, it could be compared to the baster of yore, lol
Take care of yourselves.👍
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