So you, over there,
Presume to tell me
Over here
What will work,
What will be good
For me?
And you
Know this how,
Exactly?
© 2026 Tristan Robert Lange. All rights reserved.
First published on tristanrobertlange.com, April 13, 2026.
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Love it! How does someone else presume to know what's best for me. I am the only one that knows what's best for me. I don't need outside input. It is most insulting when someone tells you what's best for you. Well done and a fave!
Katie… Yup! I hear you…that’s exactly the kind of tension this pushes on. There’s something about that presumption that just doesn’t sit right...like ever. If I ask, fine...but otherwise...yeah. Really appreciate you stepping into it like this. ⚖️🔥🖤🙏
Great message, written brilliantly. I think i might just memorize this poem and use it sometime, exactly as is. With the pauses and everything.😅😇
Abdullah… haha, please do…especially with the pauses…that’s where it really breathes. I love when something gets carried like that, so it means a lot you’d even consider it. Appreciate you, my friend. 🧠🔥🪞🙏
Wisdom?
My friend… yeah, that’s a loaded word…depends on how it’s carried, I suppose. I think wisdom sees the limits of its own knowing, when to speak and, even then, how to listen. Or it at leasts asks this question, can we really know a person (or what\'s best for them) without having lived a second of their lives and experiences? Of course, the nuance is that sometimes people do have wisdom and insight on other people's lives, but that almost always comes through deeper relational connections. Anywho, always appreciate you stepping in and adding depth to the conversation. ⚖️🔥🖤🙏
A powerful statement, your words focus on the dynamics of communication and the frustration that arises when one individual tries to impose their beliefs or understanding on another. It raises questions about knowledge, authority, and the subjective nature of experience. I love how some people presume to know what is best for me! We live in a world where others think their way is the best, yet they could never be open-minded to others.
Friendship… I appreciate that…you’re right on it. That frustration of someone stepping in (usually uninvited) like they know what’s best…that’s the tension running through it. I’ve felt that too, so it means a lot you connected with it this way. ⚖️🔥🖤🙏
You're most welcome, my friend
Exactly? Lounge seat directors, backseat drivers, legislative backbenchers, bleacher coaches….
arqios… haha, yeah…you just named the whole lineup. It’s a crowded field out there. 🤣 Appreciate you, my friend. ⚖️🔥🖤🙏
Likewise! They be heavy on the shoulders that mob🙏🏻🕊️
Doh! One has sneaked in again - clue: glug! Popeye says he knows exactly what is best for him, but WCAT, we can't say what it is! heehee.
Orchi… you absolute menace 😂 this one snuck in like a back-alley whisper and turned into a full-blown glug situation. The glug enforcers are now on their way! LOL! But why? Who are they? What is "glug enforcement?" Find out on WCAT! 🤣 ⚖️🔥🖤🙏
Is there anywhere he does not sneak in? lol.
So many presumptions based upon how we feel not how others feel. Nicely done Tristan
Soren, exactly. I really appreciate this…you put your finger on the divide between our own lens and someone else’s reality. It’s easy to miss, but it shapes everything. I’m grateful that resonated with you, my friend. ⚖️🔥🖤🙏
My pleasure Tristan
A bit provocative, but very important and crucial statement. A fave, my friend!!
Cellinic, I appreciate this…there’s a fine line between pushing and pointing, and sometimes truth sits right there in the tension. I’m glad it spoke to you, my friend…means a lot. ⚖️🔥🖤🙏
I find it's usually judgement disguised as advice, too.
🥷…yeah, you nailed it…comes off like advice, but there’s something else riding underneath it. You feel it more than you hear it, and once you notice it, it’s hard to ignore. Happens way more than it should. ⚖️🔥🖤🙏
Agreed. I can never tell who means well (and is giving advice that does not help, but trying to be nice) or who is malicious...
Sharp and defiant—cuts straight through the noise of outside judgment.
The grit lands clean: autonomy claimed without apology.
Thomas…yeah, that’s it…cutting through all the noise and just standing in it as it is. No dressing it up, no second-guessing…just owning the space you’re in. Much appreciated, my friend. ⚖️🔥🖤🙏
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