She comforted me when I would not eat the chicken,
the one my father had killed,
the one I named Penny,
when it arrived at the table as supper.
She knew what to do with a grief small enough
to fit on a plate.
But there were larger griefs
she brushed aside,
truths a child should never have had
to carry alone.
She stood by as my father
cast my stepbrother aside
for saying who he was.
And still, she protected me
by not telling him
about the dresses,
about the secret self
I was trying on
before I had words for it.
She endured my father’s drinking,
the humiliation,
the night in jail,
the long shadow of loving someone
who kept breaking the room.
And when the machines were stopped,
she was there beside him,
faithful to the end—
something I still do not understand.
She drove five hours to hear two performances
of Handel’s Messiah.
I was the tenor soloist.
She sat in the second row
behind the college president,
close enough for me to see her lean forward.
She tapped the president’s wife on the shoulder,
and said,
“That is my son.”
The woman replied,
“He is my favorite tenor.”
I was embarrassed, of course.
I was also proud to have been claimed so plainly.
When I came out, she said she had no idea.
I reminded her of the prom dress.
She said she thought it was a phase,
which is the kind of answer that is both impossible
and entirely believable.
Maybe denial had been a shelter for her.
Maybe she had lived inside it so long
she mistook it for weather.
But after that, something changed.
She moved back to the conservative Catholic town where she was born.
She told the stories of her two gay sons,
one who died of AIDS.
She received hate mail and death threats
for trying to make room for people like me.
She wanted to put a rainbow flag on her car,
and I told her she could not, because she was not gay.
That was not the truth.
The truth was that I was afraid.
I had already learned how quickly people can punish
someone for loving out loud
what others called wrong.
Near the end,
stomach cancer had made her small,
but not simple.
She asked me not to tell my siblings
when she was gone.
I understood why.
I could not keep the promise.
For a long time, I thought the story was abandonment.
Then I thought it was protection.
Then courage.
Then friendship.
None of those names was wrong.
None of them was enough.
My mother failed me.
My mother saved me.
My mother looked away.
My mother stood up.
It has taken me most of my life
to let all of those sentences stand together.
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Author:
Chuck Peterson (Pseudonym) (
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- Comment from author about the poem: I wrote this poem after sitting with memories of my mother that refused to become simple. Some still hurt. Some still comfort me. All of them, somehow, belong to the same woman.
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