Pornography
L. B. Mek said:

(firstly, please forgive me
for the opinionated and self-indulgent
tirade of words below..
Please feel free to ignore them
I\'m sure, you\'ve consulted
all the professional help, you need..
Secondly, I thank you!
for this brave and depthful
sharing
of a modern problem, few
are willing to accept
as being a genuine pandemic, issue
in modernity)..
I believe some of us, are more susceptible to addiction
in any of its forms and for any of its vices
one addiction, isn\'t necessarily
an easier fix than the other
and Porn, like all outlets
is a murky, merging
of the despicable and the pleasurable
that\'s why, in all things
\'Temperance\' is key..
the Kama sutra, could be categorised as porn
but it\'s also a cultural treasure
and if approached
with an open mind, it can
embolden and enrich the sensual
desires of a couple..
we should begin
with \'sex, is not a sin\'
its a physical expression/gratification
of emotionally anchored needs and wants
so, this porn addiction
is often, a symptom
of an emotional, disconnect
someone is denying the existence of
and until, that is fixed
the addiction will remain, a harmful element in that individuals life..
I recommend, trying to engage the person
in long, often exhaustive conversations
where the importance, is their willingness
and comfort level, in sharing aspects of themselves
they find, awkward or hard
to introduce themselves
so a little guidance may be necessary..
often there\'s a thread that leads to a traumatic or at least
a major experience
where the individual feels, inept
or helpless to thwart, an aspect
in their make-up, whether
physical or mental
and so
they\'ve convinced themselves
of a need
to lose themselves
to infatuations, as a coping methodologies
the minute
those nucleus sources
of self-control, destabilising
factors, can be identified
the sooner, a solution can be arrived upon
\'in my humble opinion\'
the problem is much more
than the images on screens..
(stay strong!
I hope you and your partner
can get through this
and become a stronger couple
for having done-so, or
if not
I hope you yourself
find the better, you deserve!)

May 19th, 2022 04:06