Today is now that sad day in my life,
Five years ago today I lost my wife,
Taken from me after so many years,
That when she passed I shed so many tears.
Forty wonderful years of married bliss,
Why was she taken from me just like this,
Dementia came to her life and took her,
So that at her end she just did not stir.
I sat by her bed as she took her last breath,
Strangely a release came to us from death,
As she passed into heavens fine abode,
And her star above down on me she showed.
She still looks down on me with pleasure shown,
So pleased for me as I am not alone.
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Goldfinch60 (Pseudonym) (
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- Comment from author about the poem: Five years ago at three o'clock in the afternoon my wife, Joyce, of forty years died from dementia, I was at her side. People say they know about dementia but if they have not lived 24/7 for many years with it they haven't a f****** clue!! Misty by Johnny Mathis was one of her favourite songs and I had it played at her funeral.
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A day of mixed remembrances I am sure .. sadness mixed with so much joy shared over 40 odd years .. a very emotionally charged poem and fittingly so ..
So true Neville, thank you.
Andy
she sent you a gift, and that gift is Mary ❤️
She certainly did Teddy and we will meet again together with Mary's husband Dave who passed many years ago. Thank you.
Andy
A poignant write Gold. I know someone, moved away now, who is 89 this week, but somehow care for his wife who has some dementia.
Thank you Orchi, dementia is such a cruel problem.
Andy
A nice tribute to a loving wife. You were fortunate to know her I'm sure.Wonderful
So true David, thank you, in all our married life we never ever had a row.
Andy
I have not lived with it Andy but I have worked with it for many years in many different people and each case is its own tragedy. My heart goes out to you but I notice that even in this you find a positive side and look to the brightness.
When Joyce was in a care home was speaking to one of the carers and I asked him if he enjoyed his work, he replied "Yes I do, but I couldn't do it at home".
Thank you soren.
Andy
Excellent write Andy
Thank you Tony.
Andy
You're welcome
Dear Andy, the pain of living with the dementia of a beloved wife is beyond imagination. I get a glimpse of it each week when I spend time with patients in a memory care facility, we sing and laugh together, but that is just for a while, and when I leave I go home to normal. You had to live with that pain and I know that it takes an unbelievable amount of courage. You have chosen a beautiful song of love for this sad day of remembrance, but I know there are the happy thoughts of all that Joyce gave to you. You have been doubly blessed in your life dear friend, and I wish you and Mary much happiness in the coming year.
Very true Bella, living with somebody who has dementia is almost life threatening but I got through it and have a good life once more. Thank you for you kind words.
Andy
Such a very sad anniversary Andy. You and Joyce had 40 years together and shared much happiness during that time. Dementia is a terribly cruel disease. Misty is a beautiful song. A fine tribute to a much loved wife.
Thank you Cassie for for beautiful words.
Andy
My prayers and thoughts are with you Andy. I saw my adoptive parents go through it in the last years of their lives and I know how sad it is to witness first hand. Rest assured Joyce is smiling down on you and Mary. 🌹🫂
Thank you AP, it is a dreadful illness but I got through it and now all is well.
Andy
In April it will be 17 years for my adoptive mother and last Friday was 3 years for my adoptive dad. Because my dad's passing was 2 days after Christmas, I find the holidays quite hard still. Every year I don't feel like going out with friends much or being in public. I go out to do what I have to, and maybe just to go to the old neighborhood where I lived with my parents just to reminisce. I have a lot of regrets of things I wish I did or didn't do, things I wish I did or didn't say. Just have to get used to things being without them here, which is still challenging. Thanks Andy. 🫂
I have no words. Not at the moment, except companionability and respect.
Most kind arqios, thank you.
Andy
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