Maxine Smith

He And She

I’ve had an exhausting day with the kids

HE arrives home and just sits on the couch 

No emotion or a welcoming kiss

HE rolls his eyes back when asked to help out 

 

I’ve had an exhausting day out at work

SHE waits my return, chores thrown in my face 

No smile or ‘have you had a nice day babe?’

SHE expects much, looking at me disgraced 

 

Why won’t he just wash the pots in the sink?!

HE moans like a child ‘il do it later!’

Plays on his phone kicking back with a drink 

HE don’t care, looks at me like a hater 

 

Why cant she just give it a bloody rest?!

SHE appreciates nothing that I do

Cant she just see that I’m doing my best?!

SHE can’t see all the stress I’m going through 

 

These two souls are Co-existing 

Dont they see what they are missing?!

 

Lean on each other, show true connection 

Open your heart, devote to each other 

Verifying love with your affection 

Empower your spouse as you are lovers 

Comments11

  • Terthas

    This is a bit how my marriage was. I did not know then what I know now. She probably still doesn’t.

    Generally speaking, men like to empty themselves after a hard time. Also generally speaking, women like to do the opposite. Women want to do things to distract their minds because their thoughts stay in constant circulation otherwise. Men prefer to take a moment to think about nothing at all.

    Therefore the man seems lazy to his wife, and the woman seems pushy to her husband. They both unwind in different ways.

    The man should show a little initiative by doing a mindless chore, like preparing the kitchen for dinner and insisting that the wife call her friends while in a bath so she can vent about her day and distract themselves with their friends’ day. This enables him to have a quiet moment to think about nothing while also enabling her to focus her energies on something other than her own thoughts and enjoy the therapy of a warm bath. By the time she is done he will have relaxed, she will have relaxed and all things will be okay in the household.

    To summarize, woman and men are different. They unwind differently. They are more open to compromise once they are unwound, and there needs to be more thought put into how to unwind by married couples.

    To add though, sometimes when the damage is too much, it can’t be reversed. Sometimes coulples become too far gone for this to suddenly work miracles in their lives. You’ve gotta personally know when it has genuinely been too much in your relationship.

    Really good read by the way. The perception switches were awesome, and the perceptions themselves were contrasted well, would not have thought one person wrote it. You have an analytical mind. And the acrostic on the word “Love” was a really good ending to this poem. Love has everything to do with it.

    • Maxine Smith

      Aw what an amazing review, thank you so much.
      Over time you begin to think and evaluate how your own actions may have been in the past, what the other may have been thinking.
      Easy to be consumed with your own thoughts and struggles, easy to fall into bad habits.
      I still believe that relationship work both ways and a good amount of support, respect and understanding is needed of both parts.
      A reflection on myself too, I probably could have been more empathetic in the past.
      I know now the person I am, it has taken a failed marriage to see that.
      As you say, some are not reconcilable, but the other day to day stuff. Those are the things that can be adjusted. We can all probably be more patient and understanding if we try.

      • Terthas

        They can be adjusted, yes. The only potential pitfall is in realizing that it needs adjusting too late. Even the small things can pile up and the weight of one more unwashed spoon can cause everything to come crashing down. Always show love the initiative to keep it healthy. ;)

      • 4 more comments

      • Sam Cork

        Excellent x

      • stevievize

        This is great and shows why communication on relationships is key as they both have internal thoughts and frustrations but don't talk about it in a constructive way I really like it well done max

        • Maxine Smith

          Thank you Stevie. What a reflective day we have had. Love ya ❤️

        • Accidental Poet

          Great write Maxine. It's true, we usually don't see our faults until after the fact. And unfortunately usually too late to fix it and make amends. Hindsight is a great teacher. Thanks for sharing.

          • Maxine Smith

            Exactly right, hindsight is a wonderful thing. Thank you for your feedback.

            • Accidental Poet

              You're welcome.

            • LittleGift

              I love the style of this piece, each stanza reflecting back what the other was feeling and perspective. Communication so simple yet seems to fail so many of us. You really captured it in this piece. And the pace was really good for each stanza, plus the use of colour again as symbolic for each person. A fine write. :)

              • Maxine Smith

                Thank you so much for the lovely review Hun. Your right, communication is so simple, yet it’s the one element that fails on so many levels if we let it.

              • LukeCoomer

                Wow this is great and unexpected! Unexpected is good keeps people on their toes

                • Maxine Smith

                  Thank you so much Luke, really appreciate your feedback.
                  You should try my fusion ‘How do you like it?’ Love to read your spin on it.

                • BRIAN & ANGELA

                  WOW MAXINE ~ THIS REALLY IS A COLLABORATION POEM ! The Battle of the Sexes is a MILLION YEAR conflict due to the failure of Partners to read each others minds ~ a little give & take would solve most problems. I have a FEMALE FRIEND who is a Relate Counsellor and she tells me most Couple Scenarios are like you have described ! I'm 34 and have never been married but sadly some of my "Peers" have already split up because they didn't communicate ! Love the way you have presented the Poem in PINK & BLUE ! It reads like a relate scenario !
                  VERSE 1 The KIDS !
                  V 2 His WORK
                  V 3 The chores (and drinking ?}
                  V 4 NAGGING ! (and his Work stress !)
                  V 5 & 6 "Two souls co-existing
                  but apart" ! NOT sharing & caring.
                  In a partnership we should love
                  each other and empower each other
                  ANGELA & I do in our engagement !

                  Thanks for posting a great poem in Structure & Subject
                  Also a great photo looking suitably bemused !
                  Yours as always ~ FRIEND BRIAN !

                  • Maxine Smith

                    Thank you so much for th appreciation Brian, so pleased you like it.

                  • Christina S

                    I like this a lot in the way that you wrote it. It's probably why so many relationships don't work out. The break down of communication. After many years of marriage, you hit the nail on the head with "empower your spouse!"

                    • Maxine Smith

                      Communication is key 100% you are rihjneed Christina, thank you for your lovely review.

                    • Goldfinch60

                      Very good write Maxine and this sort of thing happens in marriages.
                      What is so important is that you must talk to each other and always show your love to each other.
                      My wife and I have been doing this for many, many years and our love is still growing and resentment of each other does not exist.

                      • Maxine Smith

                        That is just lovely to hear Gold. Being open, honest and supportive of one another is crucial indeed.

                      • E-Poems

                        I loveeeee this maxine! Really love poems that look at the opposits perspectives. Especially if it is well written!!

                        I look forward to reading more :)

                        Peace and Love ~ E

                        • Maxine Smith

                          Thank you so much, very pleased you like it.

                        • tepo

                          Outstanding
                          Not many can see things from both sides
                          Let alone write it
                          An honour to read

                          • Maxine Smith

                            Such wonderful feedback, thank you so much Tepo.



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