Why Her, Why?


Why does it have to be this way?

Why is she drifting from me?

This woman who I love so much

Is changing.

She is not the woman I knew,

She lives in a confined world,

A world of her own thoughts.

Those thoughts creating contexts,

Contexts that bear no relation to reality.

I try to make her see

But she is so convinced she is right.

So I just accept her way,

She will soon forget,

Until another context forms

In her much confused mind.

  • Author: Goldfinch60 (Pseudonym) (Offline Offline)
  • Published: July 13th, 2017 01:39
  • Comment from author about the poem: My wife is suffering from dementia which seems to be progressing at an alarming rate, it is so hard to deal with.
  • Category: Sad
  • Views: 59


  • burning-embers

    Goldfinch60 big sympathy m8 with this horrible affliction eating at the foundations of your relationship. Your words are those of a considerate loving partner. Anyone who's come into contact with this beast know only too well the truth of your words, especially those of last 5 lines. Its a well expressed piece from the heart.

    • Goldfinch60

      Thank you b-e, you are right it is a beast.

    • orchidee

      How far can we go, with things in hymns, such as 'Sight, riches, healing of the mind / Yea, all I need in Thee to find' as the hymn-writer put it?
      I believe she had times of poor health. (Charlotte Elliott).
      Prayer is always 'worth a try' at least, though you probably know that (and do so).

      • Goldfinch60

        I pray all the time but it stretches my belief when Joyce has sung God's praises all her life and this happens to her.

        • orchidee

          I understand G/F. It's easy for me (or anyone) to give some pat cliché sort of answer. Easy enough, that is, if we're not the ones experiencing the difficult situations.

        • P.H.Rose

          Beautiful GF60
          Absolutely beautiful
          So very sad but
          Written with love
          In every line ....

          • Goldfinch60

            Thank you PH, that love will never die.

          • orchidee

            I think of you both, and pray for you both, hoping I don't 'spiritualise away' situations. Of course, it's easy to believe when all is going smoothly and cosily.

          • Michael Edwards

            I can see she has all the love and support that she could possibly wish for and as much as I feel for her I also feel for you - such a difficult and unforgiving illness. your poem so well sums up how you must feel - my heart goes out to you.

            • Goldfinch60

              Thank you Michael, much appreciated.

            • Louis Gibbs

              My heart goes out to both you and your wife, Goldie! I hope sharing your struggle with this community of fellow poets helps you.

              • Goldfinch60

                Thank you, sharing does always help and you and the fellow poets on here are always supportive.

              • onepauly

                so very sad.

              • Heather T

                I can hear your heart breaking. Holding you in prayer. I'm beyond sorry for your pain.

                • Goldfinch60

                  Thank you Heather, it can be very hard sometimes.

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