A WORKSHOP IN CUDDLING ~ SOMEWHERE IN LONDON !
GOD CREATED US ~ very tactile
Finger tips ~ skin ~ hair and our lips
From the day we are born ~ we love
To be hugged and cuddled and kissed !
BUT ~ there is inappropriate
TOUCHING ! This is now Front Page News
STARS have been "Named & Shamed" ~ also
SOME POLITICIANS ~ In UK
SOME have resigned ~ one committed
SUICIDE ~ A waste of a life !
In the CHURCH I attend ~ when I'm
THE GREETER ~ The Ladies HUG ME
And some of the MEN ! It is a
SPIRITUAL HUG ~ we are FAMILY !
Thanks for visiting ~ comments welcome ~ Love BRIAN
Men & Ladies have to be more careful ~ How and Whom they hug ~ We have a HUG A STRANGER DAY in the UK ~ perhaps this will have to be abolished along with "Helping Older Ladies to Cross the Road" To Hug or not to Hug ?" That really is today's QUESTION. What do you think ? ? ?
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Even language where there is no consistency in what is now deemed right or wrong - I'm not condoning what went on in the past but it was never questioned at the time and we have moved on. To castigate someone to the extent that they commit suicide for acting in the past in a way that is not now deemed acceptable - well shouldn't we be concentrating more on the present... ? I am also a bit tactile and the other week when a group of us got together everyone was giving everyone big hugs but I noticed a young girl who seemed quite uncomfortable with it. I know not the answer.
Thanks Michael ~ It is an Ethnic Thing as well ~ Some Races ~ West Indians Italians ~ Mexicans ~ Irish ~ Spanish etc are very Tactile ! However some Young Females are heeding the media and back off from Hugs ~ especially from Older Men ! Yours BRIAN
I think grown adults in a church giving a hug is okay. I'd say more than okay. But what they are accusing people of is much worse. And we all know the allegations. But I still am sending my spiritual hug to you this morning-Hug! Christina
Thanks "C" ~ I agree with you ! Where would we be without lots of Sisterly Hugs ! However the emphasis in recent cases is on the word INAPPROPRIATE and You would KNOW and I would KNOW if someone touched us INAPPROPRIATELY ~ it happens ! Thanks for caring A Morning Brotherly HUG ~ BRIAN @@@@@@@
This is an ill and crazy society. No matter what you do or you do not do, you always get blamed. Why? No answer for it.
Your poem got a good point.
Thanks M & M it is all very confusing ~ especially for Ladies ! I tell my Female Students IF YOU GET TOUCHED ~ Accidently ~ ignore it or Lovingly ~ enjoy it or Inappropriately ~ report it OK ~ Yours BRIAN (UK)
Hugging, as satisfying as it can be, is an invasion of another's space after all, and should not be imposed on anyone not comfortable with it or receptive to it. You can tell, if watching for the signs prior to the hug.
Good write on an important subject, Brian! Thanks for introducing it for consideration.
Thanks LOUIS ~ I have Friends & Colleagues some of whom I hug and some I don't hug ~ because I read the signs ! My MANTRA in all things is: When in DOUBT ~ DON'T ! Yours BRIAN (cautious Man) !
Caro Amico Brian,
Hugs and kisses are fine...
depending on the giver!
In our Italian family, we
hug and kiss freely...
family, friends, and
especially our children...
even when we’re angry
with one another!
Saluti, abbracci e
baci...
~Laura~
CARA AMICA LAURA ! ~ Si gli Italian sempre danno I migliori abbracci in Europa ! When I travel to Beautiful Italy I always get (and give) lots of APPROPRIATE "~ Bacci e Abbracci" from Children & Adults ~ Beautiful ! Molti Abbracci ~ BRIAN
Genuine hugs mean the world to those needing them - good read Brian and one which we all need to keep close in mind.
Thanks FAY ~ You are a great "wordsmith" and the adjective GENUINE in front of HUGS ~ elevates the action ! You can tell when a HUG is GENUINE (even a Cyber Hug) because of the warmth that flows between you ! A Genuine Hug flowing from The East Country to the West Country ~ BRIAN
p.s. I just love that beautiful example in the picture you chose - look at their smiles and see how much they are all getting from authentic hugs.
YES FAY ~ "I'm Contented when I'm a-cuddlin' and Happy when I'm a-huggin' ! I didn't give the address for the Cuddling Workshop in London ~ Members will have check GOOGLE for themselves ! Yours as ever BRIAN !
Know what you mean Brian. Even in church not everyone likes hugs. it's easy if someone hugs us first. We know they won't mind a hug in return - or at the same time. But some usually stiff and starchy folk won't care for it. Or there may be some psychological bad experience in the past.
Here ends amateur psychology lecture on 'hugs or not to hug'!
It's most embarrassing to us and others though, if we attempt to hug, and someone doesn't want it. No need to be a porcupine!
EXACTLY STEVE ~ To Hug or not to Hug ? That really IS the question ! Thanks for your very apposite comments ~ BRIAN ~ alias Huggy Bear !
Great write
Brian, I like the subject you brought up here. There are times and places when hugging is appropriate, even wanted or necessary, and then there are times and places where it is not appropriate.
On a lighter side, do you know why Russian men hug and kiss both cheeks? First kiss: What did you bring me?, second kiss: Where did you hide it?
Thanks FRED ~ We live and learn ~ Love the conundrum about the two Male Russians kissing. In our Church and Family the Men do hug each other but the kisses are reserved for Men on Ladies and Ladies on Ladies. I had noticed in Russia and some East European Countries that the Men do kiss Men on each cheek ~ now I know the meaning ! Please add a Poem to my latest FUSION on FLOWERS ~ Thanks BRIAN
Sad we have to ask. Our level of comfort has been encroached. We are now afraid of being misunderstood about our intent in such an activity that was once just innocent.
Yes indeed LG ~ It is our innocence that has been eroded not (Thanks GOD) our morality ! Yours BRIAN
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